Blind Date

I wasn’t there ten minutes before I was being asked, “Would you be interested in staying over?”  Wait.  What?  What type of message was I sending?  I tried to hide the “Hell no!” from my face as best as possible; however, my eyebrows didn’t get the message in time.  I heard a laugh.  “It’s entirely up to you.”  I said I would think about it, knowing full well that my mind was already made up.  As I sat on the bed, not knowing what was supposed to happen next, I nervously looked up from the spot my eyes were affixed to on the floor and… Wait.  I’m getting ahead of myself.  Let me take you back to how this rendezvous all started.

<< Rewind

The day had been circled on my calendar since the date was set.  Every time I looked at it, my fears and apprehensions spoke to me: Loudly.  I looked for every excuse not to go.   Nonetheless, the day greeted me with a mockingly sunny day.  “Aww crap! That rules out un-drivable conditions resulting from a severe thunderstorm.”  No.  No natural disaster or acme anvil was going to impede me from this blind date.  Departure time was approaching fast.  I did a quick mental rundown.  Clean underwear? Check.  Mints?  Check.  List of questions to ask? Check.  I was as ready as I was ever going to be.

Fast Forward >>

As I sat on the bed, not knowing what was supposed to happen next, I nervously looked up from the spot my eyes were affixed to on the floor and met the eyes of the one who I would now call, MY DOCTOR.  Up until now I had never given anyone that title.  He repeated himself, “I would like you to consider doing a sleep study to determine if you have sleep apnea.  It’s entirely up to you.”  He proceeded to go on about all the things that he expects me to do.

  • No sugar
  • Nothing with white flour in it
  • Potatoes sparingly
  • Lots of water
  • Eat breakfast everyday
  • Eat snacks that have a low glycemic index
  • 1400 calorie diet (that seems really low!)

I listened intently as his voice drowned out the fears and apprehensions that had been screaming at me just hours before.  Why didn’t I do this earlier?  Because I didn’t want to know if there was something wrong with me.  I felt O.k.  Ignorance is bliss.  Well, in this case ignorance could be deadly.  My family has a history of heart disease and diabetes.  No I couldn’t remain ignorant about my health any longer.  If not for my sake, for the sake of the ones I love that depend on me every day.  I made up in my mind that I was going to trust my doctor.  After all, what I have been doing for years hasn’t worked.

We departed with pleasantries as he wished me luck on my journey.  He asked to see me again in a month.  This blind date couldn’t have gone any better!

How long has it been since you’ve seen your doctor for preventative care?

51 comments

  1. Hi Jason, I loved this blind date story and the concept of the blog. Thanks for following my blog and I hope you enjoyed today’s shrimp curry recipe. Please let me know if there are any foods that you would like to learn more about scientifically. Have a great day! Nikki

  2. Great way to approach health challenge! As a ‘woman of a certain age’…hell,let’s just call it what it is, I’m old…I don’t battle with weight issues. But I am having a struggle with high blood pressure. I thought I was being careful with salt intake, but despite reading most labels, am likely still getting too much sodium. And I make most of my own food. I can only imagine how people struggle when they eat fast food! Keep up the good work and tell people to BE AWARE of what’s in their food.

  3. I love the way this was written! Thanks for stopping by my blog. I hope you visit again & find recipes to help you in your pursuit of health!

  4. Hilarious Post. Very Cute. Thanks for following my blog. Stay encouraged on your journey I’m excited to see where it takes you. Good health is a gift and a blessing keep pursuing it and you’ll soon unwrap all the benefits it brings.

  5. Your posts are so much fun to read, you’re a great writer! Looking forward to more. My dad passed away last Spring from a sudden and unexpected heart attack, He was only 54 and seemed healthy enough on the outside… I think what you are doing is so important, hopefully others will follow your example. 🙂

    1. Oh wow.. so sorry for your loss.. and yes that is my prayer.. that others will be inspired to take a look into what they can’t see (regarding their health).

  6. Thanks for stopping by my blog – i have had a look around yours, and I have to say, i’m really impressed with not only your blog but iwth you! Congratulations on embarking on such a fantastic challange! It already seems as though you have the determination to follow this throw…i’m going to follow this blog to make sure you do 🙂

  7. I LOVE this! Very creative writing style! I was just at the doctor a couple weeks ago for check ups. Blood work came back great except for a small thyroid issue he’s looking into.

  8. I read your post and it was great. Got an appointment this week to see the doc to get some things checked out. You’re an inspiration bro!

    1. Thanks bro! means a lot

  9. The Divine Hostess · · Reply

    Love it! Great post.

  10. Loved the way you arranged this story, it really made me keep reading to find out the scoop.

  11. This post was so *not* where I thought it was going to go — guess I need to get my mind out of the gutter 😉 Preventative care is so absolutely important — good for you for taking that first step! By any chance have you seen the documentary “Escape Fire”? I believe it’s still available on VOD and iTunes. It pertains to the US health care system and how its emphasis is on making money (as a business) and not true health care. Worth a look if you have 90 minutes.

    1. LOL don’t know if i’d wanna watch that now. I’m just starting to learn to trust my doctor. I think watching something like that would put me right back where I was (meaning never going to the doctor).

  12. thegloryoflori · · Reply

    “After all, what I have been doing for years hasn’t worked.” So very true everytime I think ‘I got this’ or ‘I have lost it before I can do it again’ I try to remember…..

  13. Small Girl Big World · · Reply

    Heehee, blind date. Cute.

  14. treesreincarnate · · Reply

    Last year, I think…? I hate going to the doctor. It’s that dead of finding out something may be wrong :-/

  15. I did not see that twist coming… Impressive storytelling, good sir.

  16. Oh btw I thought the whole blind date thing was going to be about how you met your wife haha I was ready to be all like awwwwww how sweet 🙂

    1. LOL I’ll save that post for a later date.

  17. Jason you write so well! And good on you for taking that step and going. I think it’s important not to remain blissfully ignorant BUT I also think it’s important to make sure you feel comfortable with the doctor you’re seeing and to trust your instincts when it comes to things like this.

  18. Love how there’s a twist at the end, you totally had me thinking this was something else hahaha! Great writing!

    1. Thanks so much Cindy!

  19. Great blog, Jason. May I ask? What made you go?
    I guess I’m looking for a window into the world where testosterone flows freely.
    So inspired by your journey and writing.

    1. Actually this blog inspired me to go. I knew that I wanted to lose weight. But dong this blog helped me realize that weight was only one part of my health, and I should be concerned about the other aspects as well.

      1. I think you’re right on the money there, Jason. Address the other areas of your wellness, and the weight loss follows. The sleep apnea, relationships, work life, moving the body, stress… they are all connected to our weight.
        Time for a walk… Enjoy your Saturday!
        Honored to be ‘getting to know you.’ Christine

  20. Cool, captivating writing! Thanks for the follow on my blog!

  21. I LOVE THIS POST!!!! I personally have switched from my general practitioner to a naturopathic doctor who has really helped get me on the right path. Sounds like your doctor is of the same mindset my naturopath is, which is fabulous. Saved my life.

  22. Yay! Good for you making your way to the doctor! The first visit is always the toughest, and usually meets you with an ice cold splash of reality. I used to think ignorance was bliss too, until my first doctor visit in way too many years informed me that I had high blood pressure. My doc basically told me that I was killing myself. I’ve been somewhat regular in seeing your bi-annually (except for a 2 year period when I fell off the wagon). Knowing is half the battle, you can do it!

    1. You always give GREAT comments. Thanks so much for the words of encouragement.

      1. Thanks Jason. Have an awesome weekend!

  23. You got me – I was expecting a different kind of blind date story! I have a family member with celiac, so nearly all the food in our house is white flour/ gluten free. Since inadvertently changing my diet (at least when I’m eating at home), I have had more energy and fewer cravings. Good luck!

  24. Ha! Great story. Didn’t go where I was expecting it to. 😉

  25. Great job man! Really liked this a lot.

  26. 🙂 You will survive on a 1400 calorie diet! I was doing 1,000 under doc supervision for 16 months to lose 300 and have maintained that for 3 years now! Just had a physical and passed with flying colors as well as being noted as not having sleep apnea anymore!

    1. Oh wow! that’s fantastic! Very encouraging as well. Thanks for stopping by.

  27. Love how it starts and ends! 🙂

  28. When I was pregnant 3 1/2 years ago I was borderline gestational diabetes. I had to do the diet and was supposed to get retested for diabetes after 2 years. I didn’t.

  29. The great Warren Zevon didn’t go to any doctors (except his dentist for 20 years). His dentist suggested that he go see a doctor, so he did. Boom: terminal lung cancer. That’s sort of a microcosm of everyone’s fear of going to the doctor.

    What’s interesting about Zevon is how accepting he was it. Basically skipping the first 6 steps straight to acceptance. Everyone seems to forget that death is an inevitability and the only way to keep it off is to be healthy and get regular checks-ups to try and catch anything.

    If you’re interested, here’s Zevon’s last appearance on Letterman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hl9Tw2GzvA

  30. So proud of you for going!! Most men hate to go to the doctor, especially black men….I know because I’m married to one lol!! Keep up the great work & funny post!

    1. Yes, the statistics for men who don’t go to the doctor regularly is alarming–even more so for African Americans.

  31. Haven’t been to a doctor in 11 years, but I’ve been considering it for the past 3 🙂

  32. But procrastination is one of my strongest skills!

  33. foodaddictionrecovery · · Reply

    1400 calories! Yikes! I haven’t made it down to 1486 like I’m supposed to yet lol. I have an awesome website I started using. It’s called super tracker. It keeps track of all your calories and physical activity. I love it. Good luck and good for you for seeing a doc!

    1. Thanks so much. And I have to check that website out. I get bored with food logging after awhile.

      1. foodaddictionrecovery · ·

        Agreed. It gets old fast, but it was a wake up call for me

  34. I’ll admit, it’s been way too long for me since I’ve seen my doctor.

    1. Fears? Or just procrastination?

      1. Um, a little bit of both. Plus a dash of not really knowing how to find a good doctor in a clinic I feel comfortable in. I tried to find a doctor about three years ago, but ended up with a few appointments in offices where English wasn’t the primary language. Don’t get me wrong, I think everybody should have a right to good healthcare. However, I would feel more comfortable being able to communicate well with my healthcare provider and not worry about any accidental misunderstandings.

      2. That’s understandable.

    2. I commend you for what you are doing and for taking your health in your own hands (plus, I like the way you write). I am willing to be money that, if you stick it out for a year, you will go on for the long haul.

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